Shouldering Burdens: How Far is Too Far for Parents? LOH #148
Nowadays, some parents pass on to their kids the family responsibility after they graduate from school.
I think this is something that has been happening for a long time now; it's not a nowadays thing. Also, the responsibility can be in the form of taking care of the elderly, running the family business, or managing their finances. This is an important part of their development and can help them become well-rounded individuals and that's understandable
However, I feel it is important to ensure that the responsibility is balanced with other activities such as pursuing a career, gaining new skills, and having some time for leisure. Too much responsibility can lead to burnout and leave the individual feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated.
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As a parent, do you agree with this, or will you allow your kids to shoulder burdens that are not supposed to be theirs?
I am a parent, currently, my son is just 5-years-old, and I know that the young grows But I also know that the responsibility of guiding my son to become a responsible adult, capable of making wise decisions, lies in my hands with the help of God. That's why I will make sure to provide him with the right guidance and support to help him face life's difficulties with confidence.
Now, my answer to that question will be a big no. I do not agree, nor will I allow my son to shoulder burdens that are not supposed to be his. Instead, I will take any kind of burden on myself and make sure to protect him from the difficulties of life. I will be there for him whenever he needs me and ensure that he has a bright and successful future.
Taking myself as an instance, I wasn't born with a silver spoon, and I am one of those individuals who faced difficulties in life, even from my high school days. After I graduated from high school, I couldn't further my education because my parents did not have the means to do so.
I am now furthering my education, and I am solely responsible for my welfare, both financially, and in every other area. I have worked hard to get to where I am today, and I am determined to make the most of the opportunities I have been given. I am grateful for the opportunity to further my education and am determined to make the most of it. I am confident that I will be successful in achieving my goals.
Speaking of the apartment I live in, I had to struggle to make sure I paid the rent by myself to avoid embarrassment from the landlord. Normally, there are things my parents are supposed to be responsible for, but this is my reality. I am aware that there are people in much worse conditions than me, so I'm grateful for what I have and what I can do.
I don't blame my parents either; I just understand that they don't have a source of income that can cater for most of their responsibilities, so I have to assist them in any way I can, even if it means sacrificing my own wants. I'm grateful for the support they have given me over the years, and I'm determined to give back.
I wouldn't want my son to go through this experience, and that's why I tell myself every day that I have to put in my best effort now to work hard so I can secure a good future for myself and my son. I want to be able to provide him with a better life than I had. I want to be able to provide him with opportunities that I never had. That's why I'm determined to work hard and make sure he has a bright future.
As a child, is it necessary for you to pay back your parents' laborious efforts even though it means you have to sacrifice your freedom?
The reason I'm doing this is because I don't know how my parents will meet their basic needs if I don't do anything.
To me, it is not appropriate for children to assume responsibility that is not theirs, and children do not need to sacrifice their freedom to do so, however, it will still depend on the individual and their reality.
Some people here in our Country dont have much or a choice when it comes to taking family responsibility. They have to take it whether they like it or not, well, some just really don't allow their kids to make a choice on their own. It's sad, whenever I read some confession on some social media sites regarding this. Worse thing is, they are not even thankful or appreciative for it, they can even hear bad things from their own family, in some case. It's just sad, really.
That's the reason why I said it depends on the individual and their reality.
For those who are not thankful or appreciative, that's really wrong because such will only bring negative impacts
@jessicaossom ,that was something
to think about..🤗 the reality nowadays is, t'is for the young people out there:..😁you cannot blame other people because you are miserable , it was your choice to be miserable. You choose to follow your parents choice, rather than pursue your own, and when worse come to worst, you just have to blame yourself 😂
True, one shouldn't put the blame on others for being miserable, and this is why I have chosen to do my best now so my child doesn't shoulder responsibilities that isn't his in the future.
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Hey @jessicaossom, thanks for joining the contest and for your fast response. We all have different approaches to the questions and I agree with all your thoughts.
If I were a parent, I would do the same. The future of our kids lies in our hands, not in anyone else. With the right guidance and support, the children will have a better future. It's not necessary whether we were born with a silver spoon, it's a matter of hard work and the right guidance. Many poor children grew up into successful individuals. That's because of the sacrifices of their parents.
There's an adage that says, "It's not our fault that we were born poor, but it is our fault if we die poor."
Same reason here why I support my parents in any way I can. It may not be our responsibility to pay back their laborious effort, but as a good child, it would be in our conscience to do the right thing without expecting something in return.
By the way, it's glad to know that you go back to study. It isn't too late yet anyway. Besides, your success is for your son as well. May I ask something, are you a single parent? I admire those single parents who manage to support the family while raising their own.
May your God bless you with a healthy body and mind so you could do things you needed to and guide your son until he learns to stand on his own ☺️.
Good luck lady!
Children are not supposed to be responsible, guide and teach so they are ready to face the world.
As young adults, if parents are battling it is wonderful if children are able to assist them in any way they are able.
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! help(no space) to get help on Hive. InfoThat's what I think too, it's just as you've said.
As young adults, it's good to assist parents in any way we can. Thanks for contributing ma'am.
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I agree with you lady Jess, I have my 3-year-old son too now.
In my childhood case, I don't blame my parents too of being not able to support us financially. I just want to help. We just want to help them in any way we want. Thank you for sharing your response.
Most parents wish to take good care of their children's needs but the way things are makes them do otherwise. Am glad that you are able to take care of your needs too.
I wish you well my dear
You are right about that, children are not meant to shoulder all their parents responsibilities, it is a decision to be made by the children not to impose any responsibility on them. But as a child you need to choose wisely and make a better decision, our parents are priceless supporting them it is not necessarily about Money, make out time to visit, talk to them on the phone, look after their wellbeing, make them happy is also part of responsibility.
Yes, our parents are priceless, and it's nice if we could assist when we can.
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I am glad many of us are coming to realize the effect of giving a young person the family responsibility even when they are not due has caused us and are trying to right the wrong our parents did, so our kids learn the right thing.
I commend your efforts and I pray God guides you till the end with so much happiness.
It's actually good for children to assist their parents when they can.
At the same time, parents should not just leave everything for their children.
You know, it's stunning to me how entitled some people feel regarding their circumstances and how much they do blame their parents. You nailed it right here for me! Great post! I'm inspired to write now too! Thank you!
Thanks for the contribution. I am glad my post inspired you to write yours now😊
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