Gifts, flowers, love – LOH Contest 146

Of the two questions posed, I decided to answer the second: When was the last time you were pampered with flowers and a thoughtful gift that did not come with "strings attached" (e.g.: a condition)?

Regarding this question, I can say that many times, due to the same daily routine and the difficulties we face every day (especially in a country where it is so difficult to live, such as Venezuela), we forget how important It's the details, the gestures, pampering to others. And that same situation affects everyone, so that every day the manifestations of love, tenderness, attention, pampering may be rarer... which is sad, because this is so, so important, because they give joy and emotion to our existence, as long as these are sincere gestures, made with love, selflessly.

In order to explain myself better, I need to say something about myself: When I was younger, I always heard other women (friends, relatives, acquaintances) who categorically said that men are not important in life, that they did not want or need a life partner. And well, my opinion sometimes fell on them like a bucket of cold water, because I expressed my thoughts with total conviction, and it is that I always wanted and longed for a good companion, a beautiful love, a husband who accompanied me throughout my life journey, and with which to build a family. This sometimes produced a strained and unpleasant silence in women's meetings and conversations, where many shouted that they did not need a husband, that men were expendable, although I am convinced that they said that out loud, as if to convince themselves, but deep down they did long for someone to love. I thought, and I still think, that God did not create us to be alone, but to walk throughout this existence in the company of another person, another soul; although I also believe in the saying that says "better to be alone than in bad company". In any case, God was great with me, because after losses and failures, I got a husband just the way I wanted him, imperfect, yes, but ideal for me.

And although I know that in life there are no guarantees, and that at any moment, for various reasons, we can suffer the absence of the other, (I know it from my own experience); but it's nice to be with someone who loves you and whom you love, and to live those daily or special moments, in a genuine and sincere way. That is why pampering and gifts are actions and details that strengthen the romantic relationship, but also revitalize us as individuals, raise our vibration and make us feel happier.

And to clearly answer the question posed, the last time I felt pampered was recently, on my birthday, when my husband came home with a delicious chocolate cake and a choker. He also brought pizza with lots of bell peppers, corn, mushrooms, and olives, just the way I like it. He bought sodas too, and that was great. He succeeded that day with everything, and although it may seem like a simple gesture, it was super cool for me, I felt very happy. He didn't bring me flowers, because he knows I don't like flowers. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love plants and seeing flowers on plants, but it saddens me to see how flowers that are cut wither, at an unusual speed, when the average temperature where I live is 40 °C, so flowers, no thanks, I prefer a plant in a pot, that is, a being that can stay alive.

However, there are other more everyday gestures that make me equally happy, for example, when he brings me my morning coffee to bed, because I've been up late working at Hive, so the best way to wake up is with a good cup of hot coffee, very black and without sugar. Or when on Saturdays, when he returns from buying groceries at the market, he arrives with some sweets, a piece of candy, a cookie. They are perhaps minimal details, but for me they are very valuable.

And regarding conditions, all these pampering come without conditions, without interest, without duplicity, the only thing I perceive is that it is one of the ways that he has to tell me: I LOVE YOU.

Here ends my post today, hoping that my experience gives you a clear perspective of the importance of pampering, gifts in the romantic and personal field. A hug for everyone.