That one thing that is difficult for me to do

I'm always a Yes person and one thing I find very difficult doing is saying No to people.

I always want to please people, not because I want to be loved but because I feel very comfortable helping out at all times.

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I always want to be there no matter how difficult the situation may be. Helping and making other people happy has always been a priority for me.

I believe though a lot of challenges come with saying Yes to people at all times, a lot of good rewards come with it as well.

This area of my personality trait has helped me build a very strong interpersonal relationship in my personal life and professional life and people have always seen me as someone who can always be there in times of need and challenges.

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However, lots of conflicts come with the desire to please people and these cause me to bite more than I can chew sometimes.

This affects my priorities sometimes, I mean after committing myself to taking care of someone else, I find it difficult to take care of my personal needs, and this makes me overwhelmed most time because I push too hard to maintain a balance between my needs and the needs of others.

Saying yes is not fun, but saying no is not easy for me because I always truly care about others, and not being able to come to their aid when they need me makes me feel so uncomfortable, and makes me feel like I am disappointing someone or letting someone down, it makes me feel uncaring, selfish and unkind.

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There's always a serious setback for someone who says yes all the time as you struggle to take care of your personal needs all because you're committed too much to other people's needs.

Moreso when you have a family, the responsibilities double, especially when you're a man, certainly, your wife drags you when you're too busy to have her time all in the name of helping out others.

Trying to maintain balance with that is very difficult, only if your spouse is a very understanding and enduring type. Doing these gets you exhausted sometimes.

Saying No is not something easy at all, but I am trying to subject myself to self-growth and self-discovery, I am learning to begin to say no as say yes at all times it is affecting my personal life in many ways, even for people who need me the most sometimes have to suffer for this.

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I am learning how best to say no. Saying No constructively and respectfully would help as I'm starting to set boundaries and prioritize my own needs.

I am learning to use different means to say no and not look bad before those that need me because I feel I have gotten to a stage in my life where I need to adjust and value my own time and energy otherwise, I may end up leaving with regrets knowing a simple No would have made things positively different for me.

The one thing I find very difficult to do is say NO. However setting boundaries, constructive decline to requests, and assertive communication to make people understand why I'm declining would help me maintain a balance between taking care of myself and others.