LOH #158// DEAR DIARY.....
Hello everyone, how are you all doing today. I'm really happy to be here with you again. This is another #ladiesofhive community contest and if you would ask me, I've never had a diary before but I will write it as if I'm talking to a friend.
DEAR DIARY.....
Even though you have been around for a while but I really don't have anything to write but today , I think I have something to tell you, something that is bothering my mind and I don't have anyone because I want it to be a secret between us.
You won't believe what happened to me, I got jealous of a friend which has never done or happened to me before. I tried to reason why it happened but I couldn't find a good excuse than to come to a conclusion that it happens because I am a human. Don't get me wrong thought, I'm not jealous of her beauty or success, it's just something petty.
I met a friend again after ten years or so, we chat about a lots of things and she invited me to her house. When we got to her house, there was nobody at home, her husband went to work and apparently her kids went to school too.
She asked me if we should order or cook at home and told her that I prefer home food to ordered one. So she decided to cook and me being me, I can just sit and watch so I joined her in the kitchen. Her freezer was stocked with preserved vegetables, she said she bought a lot because her husband love eating it.
I was jealous because her husband like vegetables even though they didn't have it around but me, we have a lot of vegetables in our garden but we usually give it out because my husband doesn't like it, I kept thinking about it but I couldn't understand, there are lots of vegetables I can cook in the garden but he wouldn't eat it so I stop asking him if I could prepare vegetables or not because I know what his answer will be.
My friend noticed my change in mood and asked me what is wrong but I couldn't tell her because it doesn't sound well telling her this and that and I think it is bad of me to get jealous over something like that but I can't help it.
Dear diary what did you think I should do, I really don't like the feeling of getting jealous but it is really out of my control. What can I do not to get jealous over something like that again because I don't understand that feeling, it was the first time of me getting jealous so I don't want to get that feeling again.
This is what I have in my mind that I really want to share with you my dear diary and that will be all for today, if I have something else to share with you I will come back to you, thanks.
Thanks for checking on my blog and have a wonderful day
Humans at one point or another feel this way...we wish we could be in this person's shoe and all.
You can overcome this by understanding that it's normal, bring grateful for what you have currently and not dwelling on the things your friend has.
Thank you so much for your advice, I've been thinking about it too and I think it is not healthy to be jealous, thanks once again.
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That is a very human response @leemah1 earning the approval or meeting the needs of our spouse is an important asspect in our role. Observing someone else fulfilling that role would tend to underline our own perception of any short comings. Time to communicate our expectations and goals between spouses.
Thanks for this great advice, I also think that way but it not easy to implement, what if communication does not solve it, I will just try as much as not to get jealous over something like that again. Thanks for stopping by.
Hello @leemah1. I understand completely your feeling of jealousy. When I was younger, the same thing happened to me. It was a simple thing. Other couples loved to go sightseeing, traveling out of the country, and hiking. Try as I may, I could not cajole my husband to conform to what they were doing. Nagging about an activity he didn't like just because other couples were doing it only brought endless arguments. So, we decided on activities we both loved to do.
But comparing apples to oranges doesn't help. I remember what my mom used to say: "what's good for the goose, may not be good for the gander." OR "individual results may vary."
Two couples, each with a wife who loves to preserve and prepare fresh vegetables, which are very healthy for your family. One husband accepts them; the other doesn't.
The thing you have to remember is that you actually took the first step toward recovery. You ACKNOWLEDGED the jealousy. Then you compared the reason...the result of your hard work compared to your friend.
You can't live you life by another couple's example of a how a household or family should be. You and your husband are different with a different dynamic, outlooks and, tastes. If you're not going to switch your husband for one that likes your fresh veggies, then you two have to find something else you can agree upon. Your husband is yours. Not anyone else's. And I don't think at this stage you can change him.
Thanks for sharing your Diary story. Take care.
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Thank you so very much, your advice is always reach the core and I love you for that. I will accept my husband for who he is as you say, we both have what we like but sometimes, I will be craving for vegetable but he will say no because he knew I can't eat it alone, there is nothing I can do to change him at this time because that is who he is and I'm not ready to switch him with other. Thanks once again.
Don't deny yourself the fresh vegetable if he doesn't want it. What I do is cook items I like that he doesn't, and vice versa. I will make large portions, then freeze some in containers for next time. When in a rush, just thaw and eat. I make dishes like this all the time.
I will definitely try do that, everything can not be about him. I also deserve to eat what I love. Thanks for this.
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I loved the entry ,
The honesty is great and hopefully writing it down in a blog helped
Thank you for opening up your diary to me.
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Thanks for the reminder, I will surely participate int his one too, thanks once again.