Do you have to push your partner into chores and housework?

Good evening hivers, I hope you had a great Friday. Below I share with you my participation in the challenge proposed by our friend @galenkp All questions are very interesting... I hope you enjoy my participation, let's get started!

For the women...Do you have to push your partner into chores and housework? Explain and tell us any funny stories or methods you've used to get that partner of yours working! (Sex usually works well I guess.)

When I was newly married I was the only one who was in charge of all the housework, this situation continued for a few months when I started to feel that I was not only a wife but also a slave. Despite the fact that I explained my disagreement to my husband, he continued with his arms crossed, when we sat at the table he enjoyed what I cooked, then he went to rest for a while without helping to remove the dishes from the table. After analyzing how to achieve a positive change in him, I thought of various strategies that would help my husband understand that housework should be equitable and that the fairest thing was to reach an agreement where we both agreed, but of course I managed to convince him through conversation, I had to push him through experience, there are definitely people who learn through dialogue and others with unpleasant memories.

One of the things that my husband enjoyed the most was my cooking skills, the truth is that it is something that I love to do and when one cooks with love it is difficult to do it wrong. My first strategy was not to make him happy with my recipes, in this experiment I had to sacrifice my palate haha! I started preparing meals without putting heart into it, I stopped using seasonings and only seasoned them with salt. When my husband complained to me saying that the food lacked flavor, I explained to him that I felt very tired with all the household chores and that the extreme fatigue made me not concentrate when cooking, but that if he helped wash the dishes and pots, I could be sure that with his collaboration my concentration in cooking would return and I would be able to enjoy what I enjoyed eating so much again. He immediately learned his lesson and I had his collaboration in this regard.

There is an activity that I have never enjoyed doing because of the heat it generates and that is ironing. In this aspect it was always me who washed all the clothes, hung them up and ironed their shirts. I explained to my husband that I would only be in charge of washing and hanging, that the solution was for him to take care of the ironing in order to prevent the heat from the iron from lowering my blood pressure, the other solution was to buy shirts that did not have to be ironed. I didn't make this decision with a good attitude, but when he saw the laundry basket with the un-ironed shirts, he understood that if he wanted to enjoy a well-ironed shirt, he had to collaborate.

One day we sat down to talk and divided the housework, he had a positive behavior, he recognized his mistakes and promised to change, he transformed his comfort into an attitude where collaborating was the only choice. Definitely his bad experience with the palate made him understand that in life we ​​must sow to have the results that make us happy, when a part is fractured and agreements are broken, this generates a disagreement that little by little turns into a big ball of snow that we cannot stop afterwards.

Regarding sex, it was something similar, our first meetings were not pleasant for me, since there was a lack of communication, but since I am a very expressive person, I did not hesitate to be honest with him, since if he lied, the result would be exchanging sex without pleasure. At first I felt a little embarrassed to explain to him that his way of loving did not lead me to a happy ending, but I went on explaining and guiding the erogenous points of my body, I told him to sit and watch like a good student as if he were in a class where the teacher was me, because I was the one who knew the map and the cardinal points of a piece of land that belonged to me haha!

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