ABOUT MY FIRST PREGNANCY EXPERIENCE #173

Hi everyone enjoying the start of the week. So far, this community I've been a part of has always included young women at its core and want them to grow and not have to face life alone. Participating the contest will teach you something beyond making money.

I am also thankful to @jane1289 for organizing this wonderful contest in order for me to share my views and I will be participating in the contest which says: "Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?"

I just wanted that the day I became pregnant in my parents' house, was similar to be my final day on the planet; it wasn't a joke either. But praise be to my creator, who sent assistance through another person who had been in a similar situation.

You may find the link to my previous article describing how my experience felt in one of the contest entries below.

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Falling in love is a positive thing; in fact, I would argue that being loved by someone is a pleasant feeling. However, it ultimately proves to be an unpleasant experience, particularly if you become pregnant without expecting or planning. Reading about other people's experiences is crucial since it may help you safeguard your mental health early on, beat depression, and find motivation when you make such errors. Since we are all imperfect human beings, errors will always happen.

Having a boyfriend is taboo in my home; you only get one when you're about to get married. I went through what's known as "real rejection" when I became pregnant for my boyfriend, whom I still love today.

My parents had to advise me to leave their home and go to the village where no one knows me so that I could easily cover the shame since I’m not known by anyone there. At first, I refused, and the more I objected, the more others made fun of me.
Even my neighbors who used to chat with me declined. I could not take any more abuse from friends or family. I was afraid to end the pregnancy because I didn't want to take the life that I couldn't produce.

My lover took care of things and took responsibility for them, so I didn't have to terminate the relationship.
Instead of leaving, he continued to contact me every day and encourage me because of the connection we had already built. Despite the circumstances, he was the only one who urged me to get employment.

Every day I would get depressed and sat somewhere, babbling to myself about what to do. My partner was the only one who supported me at that time, even though he was also seeking for work at the time and had lost his first job.

He suggested that I go work as a sales representative at a local firm. Regretfully, I didn't agree with that viewpoint at the time, but I eventually felt it was necessary to do so.
Because my pregnancy was starting to show, the first three places I went to rejected me, fearing that I wouldn't be able to handle the responsibilities of being a sales representative.

I persisted in applying for the job and came across a store that sold food along with other goods. The salesperson who had been working there had an admission into the university, so they were in dire need of a replacement. Without filing any paperwork, I approached the manager, who conducted an interview with me. I began working there that same day.

That day, my parents—who had rejected me and advised me to move to the village—started phoning, assuming I was already there and didn't realize I had gone to seek for work. I didn't speak to anyone when I got home. To make a long tale short, on a faithful day, following my private devotional prayers, I recognized that I need divine help. I asked to God for assistance. I uttered something like "Please, Jesus Christ help me" over a hundred times before going for work.

As I went to work that day, A woman who seemed quite young came to buy some goods with her young child, and immediately she saw me wanted to attend to her, she told me not to, she will attend to herself. Here, a client lets you know what they want, and you go pick it out for them.

During a conversation, one thing led to the other, we began indepth discussion. she informed me that the child she was carrying was hers. She began to tell me about the abuse she had experienced, including how her uncle, with whom she was living, had gotten her pregnant and had driven her from the house after she had reported the incident to the proper authorities. The authorities couldn't help because they lost their recognition due to a sack of their boss. At that point, I became aware that many people had different accounts to tell.

She volunteered to assist me with baby stuff that was when I started to feel loved and cared for. She took me to where she worships and I met with people. To cut the long story short I had a baby boy named Darius and he is doing fine.

I'll be giving advice to women who become pregnant outside of marriage.

Have faith in God and yourself
You undoubtedly had aspirations before it happened, including the desire to be someone who is influential. Hold onto your dreams and give yourself time to think that you will still succeed in your goals in spite of your setbacks. Of All remember to pray.

Avoid being lonely
Suicidal, depressive, and enraged feelings will arise from loneliness. You need to socialize with others, particularly those who have experienced similar circumstances in the past.

Look for job opportunities
If you are like me whom no one supported, The only thing you can do is look after yourself by getting a job because when you become pregnant, nobody will look after you; you are an independent being. However, your work will sustain you.

Thanks for reading through my blog. It's a journey that requires careful planning and preparation on the parts of both you and your partner. It is so tough to manage on your own.

Have a stunning and wonderful week, please.