LOH Community Contest #170 ~ My Upbringing

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When I saw the prompt questions for today, I had to think deeply especially on this one but truthfully, I think when it concerns my life, I have an upper hand about how my life goes and the turn up of my life. Well, I took responsibility for my life after the death of my father, although I still do have my mom but it wasn't and hasn't been the same after his death.

Truthfully, my mom and I never had that motherly-daughter love but notwithstanding, there are still times I look back and am grateful for her presence in my life because I now understand better that although her ways of parenting me weren't the best but it helped me and is the reason why I am still a disciplined, sane and responsible child till today. One hidden truth my mom will never know or should I say I would never outrightly tell my mom is that I am who I am, the way I behave and act, and where I am today as a result of her strict upbringing.

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In which aspects of your life you are grateful for not being 100% in control?

My parent's parenting style (upbringing) especially that of my mom is and was something else, it put so much fear and kept me in check because I was conscious of the fact that if I messed up, I had her to treat my bullshit and bring me back to my senses, my Dad's parenting style was a bit lenient and made me most times want to draft but my mom's scowl, terrible beating will always bring back my sanity and help me stay disciplined, have self-control and responsible even when I am in a space filled with people doing things out of the line.

However, I still pray that I never use such a parenting style on my kids because I am more learned and do not want to raise kids one day who will fear me instead of respect and admire me as their mother but my mom's strong upbringing Is put me in check and in a string grip for as long as I have been this old and yeah, I am grateful for not being 100% in control of that part because I would have been a mess today if I had 100% control of that aspect of my life.

This is my entry to the Ladies of Hive Community Contest #170

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I agree we all need to put in check as children, but parents need to understand that parenting doesn't have a past question. The method from their old folks doesn't work anymore. Maybe not all but most.

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You are right that is why every day I pray not to train my kids with the kind of hand my mom used but then I guess that was how best she knew how to train me, and it could be the same way her parents used on her but then, I still say that if she was like my dad, the turn out of things wouldn't have been the same, especially for myself.

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I can see myself in that. I am grateful fur my parents, it took me long enough to understand and accept that they raised me the best they could in their circumstances. But I try my hardest to not repeat that parenting style. I believe every generation tries to do better, until the cycle ends .

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That's true, it's better for children to respect and honour their parents rather than fear them. I do enjoy reading from you today dear sister. I do wish you well

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For me, it's the other way around. My dad was very strict on us that we do run to bed to pretend like we're sleeping whenever he gets back from work because none of us wants to be the scapegoat. But I tell you, it really moulded us to being better children compared to our childhood peers. Now that we're all grown, we're now grateful for that.

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We learn from our parent's mistakes. When the time comes, I am certain you will be a wonderful mother @eliany💗

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