Learning to be careful in decisions | Aprender a ser cuidadosa en las decisiones Loh #173
In English
Greetings dear Ladies, with the edition you bring us this week, where you invite us to reflect with the questions of @jane1289, here is my participation:
Knowing how to love and who to love
From my point of view this is a very controversial topic with different points of view, nowadays young people live life in a hurry and that is why they do not stop to think about whether it is right or wrong to have sex before marriage and this also leads to unwanted pregnancies and sometimes to hasty marriages to cover up appearances.
If you have sex without responsibility this will always have bad consequences, that's why I think you should enjoy dating as our parents did, in a responsible way and thus give way to romanticism, which with this coming and going in such a hurry, we have been leaving it in oblivion.
En Español
Saludos estimadas Damas, con la edición que nos traen ésta semana, dónde nos invitan a reflexionar con las preguntas de @jane1289, a continuación mi participación:
Saber cómo amar y a quien
Desde mi punto de vista este es un tema muy polémico y con diferentes puntos de vista, hoy en dia la juventud vive la vida muy de prisa y es por eso que no se detiene a pensar en si es correcto o no, tener sexo antes del matrimonio y esto los lleva tambien a encontrarse con embarazos no deseados y algunas de las veces con matrimonios precipitados para cubrir apariencias.
Si se tiene sexo sin responsabilidad esto siempre tendrá malas consecuencias, por eso pienso que deben disfrutar del noviazgo como lo hacian nuestros padres, de una manera responsable y con ello darle paso al romanticismo, que con este ir y venir tan de prisa, lo hemos ido dejando en el olvido.
It makes me sad when I see a young pregnant girl, I think they should have confidence with their parents or an acquaintance and before taking any step, ask for advice, do not get carried away by their hormones, please think about it, do not do things to please your partner.
Because later they will not get into the problem with you, except for a few, they are responsible, for all I know, the worst part is always taken by us.
In the end what is most important is how we feel ourselves, knowing how to wait because love is not found by testing it with any person who looks at us, because I assure you that if you walk with a different person every so often, it would also lend itself to criticism, in other words, we will never manage to "satisfy" everyone and in the end what counts is what we want.
Me da pesar cuando veo alguna chica jovencita embarazada, creo que deben tener confianza con sus padres o algún conocido y antes de dar cualquier paso , pidan consejos, no se dejen llevar por sus hormonas, por favor piénsalo, no hagan las cosas por complacer a tu pareja.
Porque ellos después no se meterán contigo en el problema, a excepción de pocos, se hacen responsables, por todo lo que conozco, la peor parte siempre la llevamos nosotras.
Al final lo que es mas importante , es cómo nos sintamos nosotras mismas, saber esperar porque el amor no se encuentra poniéndolo a prueba con cualquier persona que nos mira, porque te aseguro que si andas con uno diferente cada cierto tiempo, también se prestaría para las criticas, en otras palabras, nunca vamos a lograr "satisfacer” a todo el mundo y al final lo que cuenta es lo que queremos.
We are valuable and should not put up with abusive relationships
Most women fight and struggle against adversity in an effort to save the family union, especially when there are children, however, I believe that we should not put up with abuse from rude in-laws, nor from that partner who is incapable of defending us or his own baby, because in the end the children will be affected by the bad influences of the environment where they grow up and the main thing is to seek the best for them.
Women need to take a good look, not to stay in an abusive relationship, If the individual did not change during the time of courtship and dating, neither will they change when they are already together and instead of leaving in time, because they really fell in love, perhaps blinded by idealising love, they go to live with that person hoping that he or she will change.
Somos valiosas y no debemos soportar las relaciones abusivas
La mayoría de las mujeres, luchan y pelean contra las adversidades en un afán de salvar la unión de la familia, especialmente cuando existen hijos, sin embargo, creo que no debemos soportar maltratos de suegros groseros, ni de esa pareja que es incapaz de defendernos ni a su propio bebé, porque al final los hijos se verán afectados por las malas influencias del entorno donde crecen y lo principal es buscar lo mejor para ellos.
Las mujeres debemos mirar bien, que no hay que quedarse en una relación abusiva, si el individuo no cambió durante el tiempo de cortejo y noviazgo, tampoco va a cambiar cuando ya están juntos y en lugar de retirarse a tiempo, porque se enamoraron de verdad, quizás cegadas por idealizar el amor, se van a vivir con esa persona esperando que cambie.
Who does not think of the harm they do to the couple who carry a sacred fruit in their womb, and that is when every woman needs more care, tenderness, protection and shelter, and of the harm they do to the children, God will be in charge of asking for an account when their turn comes to those people who only think of their own pleasure.
I believe that a mother who decides to raise her child, without depending on a partner, takes from her children the love to become strong and that drives us in recovery, not that your pain is minimised, of course not, a separation in any way you see it is painful, no woman gets married thinking that it will only be temporary, but in the midst of all the bad, it also helps us to realise that this person is not who we thought.
Quien no piensa el daño que hacen a la pareja que lleva un fruto sagrado en su vientre, y que es cuando más cuidados, ternura, protección y amparo necesita toda mujer y en el daño que le hace a los niños, Dios será el encargado de pedir cuentas cuando les llegue su turno a esas personas que solo piensan en su propio placer.
Creo que una madre que decide criar a su hijo, sin depender de una pareja, toma de sus hijos el amor para hacerse fuerte y eso nos impulsa en la recuperación, no es que tu dolor se minimice, por supuesto que no, una separación de cualquier forma que lo veas es dolorosa, ninguna mujer se casa pensando que será solo temporal, pero en medio de todo lo malo, también nos sirve para darnos cuenta que esa persona no es quien pensamos.
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Hola ciertamente la mujer debe valorarse y no dejarse maltratar psicológicamente menos de manera física, todos somos humanos, yo he tenido parejas y bueno han Sido algunas conflictiva, por razones de carácter dominante, y nunca las he maltratado cortó la relación y al tiempo somos buenos amigos
Thank you @encuentro for taking the time to read and comment, everyone has their own experiences, the important thing is to know how to withdraw in time or seek help in situations of abuse. Greetings.
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Women are truly vulnerable when it comes to love. But I believe that when we become mothers, we are even more practical and stronger. Of course, we would think of our children's future while considering different factors. there are women though who failed to stand on their own when put in difficult circumstances,..I pity those children abandoned by their irresponsible parents because they are not in a good state to think about what best to do or are afraid of responsibilities.
So kudos to those who fight for their families and never leave their children even if they have to raise them alone.
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Thank you @jane1289 for your very touching comment, certainly in the end it is the children who suffer most from the consequences of parental irresponsibility. A hug
I love the points you shared ❤. There is no need for anyone to rush into relationships. It is important to study the person to know if we can trust them enough for a lifetime in marriage.
Unfortunately, many young feel they know it all. At last it ends in regret for them.
Thank you @nqwinndave for taking the time to read me and comment, that's why we must enjoy this stage of courtship with responsibility, giving the time where the facets of the couple can be revealed.A hug
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I love the points you brought up. Many young people are in a hurry and believe they can win a man's heart by becoming very intimate with them. Unfortunately they end up in regret most of the time.
Certainly @ngwinndave your comment and the strongest we women carry it, my experience is to be a mother and father at the same time, but today it fills me with pride.
You are an amazing lady, @cautiva-30 ! You are doing a great job, dear friend!
In today's world, we, as the human race, are so wrapped up in getting what gives us pleasure. I know some women have sex to feel loved, when in fact, they already are-they're just looking in the wrong place!
My hope and prayer is that young women and girls will seek the love that the Father has to offer first; and follow the principles and the way we should live. That hopefully would make them think twice before jumping into the fire!
Marrying or staying in an abusive relationship will not change the abuser. What is directed at the woman first might eventually come to rest on the child.
Thank you for sharing. Take care!
Thank you @elizabethbit for your very moving commentary and prayers for these young girls, I also pray that God will fill them with intelligence so that they can ask for help in situations of mistreatment and abuse that in the end affect the whole environment of the children. A hug
Thank you, and you are welcome! It is sad when this happens. Hopefully through education and emotional support, young girls (and women too) can avoid this trap.
Take care and have a lovely weekend!🤗💜
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