The Offer!

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Looking at the photo of this small statue I am getting confused. Is Buddha sleeping here?
Maybe he is just daydreaming? Or he is just enjoying his time on this shelve.
Could be also in a state of thinking...if yes, he is doing it with a lot of pleasure. His facial expression is kind of neutral but that small curved line upwards shows a sign of a gentle smile. Yes, he definitely enjoys peace of mind.

Anyway, how could he not have peace of mind? He is just a statue. He doesn't have to think about accepting an offer or not, like me. Something was proposed to me yesterday, and I haven't answered yet because I don't know if I want to accept it. Oh yes, that is the trick with the offers. They usually have some inviting features, but when you start to analyze all of them, doubts are coming to spoil the party.

But in my opinion, there are two kinds of offers.

The first version of them is when something is proposed, and you immediately refuse it. Later, you regret it a little bit - that you rejected it. Hmm, I am not sure if I explained well, let us see in a real example.

A few days ago I accidentally ended up in one chocolate shop {accidentally indeed}. There you can buy a wide variety of chocolate bars manufactured in the local chocolate factory (well, not exactly from our town, but that city is not far away from us), but also you can have a cup of hot chocolate and other yummy products. I ordered a cup of that strong, pure hot chocolate. It was my first of this kind after almost three months. I sinned.

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the place I sinned...

Getting back to the point, we are talking about offers. I got an offer in that chocolate shop while enjoying my cup of that heaven: Go to someone quickly, touch his/her nose with my fingertip and make a silly sound, something like a beep sound and walk away as nothing happened.

Yeah, that was not the funniest part. The crazier thing was that the person who made the offer and I indeed took a short glimpse over the tables and decided who my victim would be. We have chosen a middle-aged man, with a black moustache having his time with his family.
The reward if I do it? One ETH just for me. Spend it how and when I want.

I refused.
And now I am regretting why I refused it without giving the idea a second chance {lol}
I wish I did it. Now it is late.

The other kind of offer is when you take your time to think, and probably overthink it at the end. However, you are trying to take your time as you don't want to regret later your compromise. It is not easy to make a decision when you start to analyze all the pros and cons of the proposal. Of course, we have to see them and decide what is the best.

So, yesterday I was offered a new gig (and with that, other new ones would probably come too). It would be very similar to what I am doing right now on Sunday mornings but in another city. What I don't like is that I would have to drive 45 km one way (and the same back). Even more, I don't like the fact that it would be every Friday evening, during the summer.

If you are a musician and you like to be paid for your skills, then you should not even think about not accepting it. But it seems that I got spoiled with this lockdown thing. I could not travel away for a month or two, as we usually do. Some years ago, there was a summer that I played every single day in a different place, some days I even had two gigs. After some time you just want not to have them anymore, as you are basically tied to your compromises. I reduced the number of gigs and it was better. Then, almost two years of not playing.

2022, and the business is back. The summer is coming and I know the manager will not stop offering me new gigs. So here I am, not wanting to refuse them but either wanting to work during the whole summer. At the moment I think I will refuse this one, as I should give him an answer soon so he could find another musician instead of me. But, then I will maybe regret my decision.

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How do you manage to make decisions when you get an offer, for example for a gig or a concert? Do you think (and overthink) a lot? Or maybe you are the type of person that immediately makes a decision? If you would like to share your experience and point of view on this topic, I would gladly read it in the comment section :))



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First of all, I think buda is resting without worries, I'm sure he hasn't had an appetizing offer in a long time and I think he's fine with that haha.

We haven't had that kind of offer but your situation is very interesting, and by interesting we mean fun, maybe you've played a lot of gigs and don't feel the same excitement, but it's understandable. We in particular would accept that offer without much doubt, but maybe we say this because we have never done concerts and that illusion is always there latent... Anyway, do what your heart tells you, it will surely be the best decision 😉.

PS: Share chocolates with us 🤤.

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Yes, he is very fine with his resting activity :D

I would like you could have some offers for gigs soon. I am also excited when I get an opportunity to play or have a gig, but this would be a commitment, another one, apart from so many others things I am doing. So, my heart indeed decided this midday, I refused it as I would not be happy with this one.

P.S. chocolate is coming 🍫 :))

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Interesting reflection about the statue. Well, going back to the offers, I tell you a little: I used to be one of those who overthought everything, but now I concentrate more on feeling than thinking. Sometimes the brain plays tricks on us, but the heart is more precise. I have also worked a lot with art (singing), and I think the important thing is that you can control the rhythms and frequency of what you do. Sometimes money is the priority, sometimes calm. I've been singing a lot, and I've also been a long time without it. Just because you have a talent doesn't mean you should always exploit it, I think your soul will let you know if it's time or not. You can also look for a way to self-manage, maybe it's harder and doesn't pay as much, but that way you might have more control over the schedules. In my case, it helped a lot. If after a while you are still undecided, maybe a walk in the park will help to clear your doubts. Hugs.

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Hmm, I like your statement that having talent doesn't mean you always have to exploit it. It would come good in terms of receiving some extra money, but being tied to them for a long time would not make me good. And indeed, I walked today ( hahaha, ok just to the grocery and back, it was so windy so I didn't have the appetite to walk more) and when came home, I informed the person who offered it that I am skipping this one. Yay, I feel easier now :))
Thank you so much for your opinion, it was a pleasure to read your comment @introspectiva 😇

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I think this might help:
rejecting an offer - the pros and cons
accepting an offer - pros and cons
Choosing where there are more advantages

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More advantages came in the part of rejecting the offer. The most important advantage of that was having peace of mind :) 😇

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Sleeping or day dreaming?

I thought he was holding up the shelf with his head 😂

1 Eth! Holy crap. That would have been a huge reward.

Decisions are hard though. I tend to over think them. Once you make a decision though you can't look back (but thats easier said then done sometimes). I get why you're unsure about the summer gig. It's not great that you have to give up every weekend.

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I thought he was holding up the shelf with his head

😂😂😂

This is hilarious, it indeed looks like he is holding up the "upper shelf" with his head. I didn't notice it until now 😆

Yep, it would be a nice reward, but it would be enough interesting too to do it without the payment. Just for fun and to know the reaction of the man 😂

Well, maybe thee will be other chances and other challenges so I use them wisely :D

btw, I have chosen freedom today, I made my decision :))

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Freedom!!!

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I feel like the man's reaction would be very different depending on if it was pre or post covid times.

Pre-covid: Man looks up confused. Sees you looking down smiling at him holding back laughter. He smiles back. You both start laughing.

Post-covid: Man looks up and sees you. You're smiling at him but he can't see because you're wearing a mask. He glares at you, flips the table and shouts "DID YOU JUST TOUCH MY FACE WITH YOUR COVID FINGERS!!!!????"

....😆🤣

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Hahaha, @leaky20 it is absolutely how it would be. I really would like to see what would be the man's reaction, but I suppose you described it into perfection 🙌😆😆

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This sort of speaks to me too.
I m currently having an offer of a job as a medical officer somewhere else. I love where I am and beginning to feel comfortable, I fear it's complacence tho, but I want to improve and the offer doesn't seem to be clear enough, as I keep calling to make findings, I fear they ll soon get weary of me calling and say take it or leave it.

I like your decision for refusing the one Eth. And I ll love you to stand to your decision as well. It's all part of us, going out of your person to do something for only being dared for money. That's probably not my thing too.

How I make decisions.
I pray, and watch. Lol. Literally. Hehe and I hope my God isn't sleeping too hehehe.

By watching, it means I make research and do findings, if it's mine, it will fit and I ll have peace that way. If it's not. I ll know.

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Oh, you are having a difficult time now, you will have to make the decision too. If you could do a bit more research would be good for you that change...If you will indeed improve with that other one or not. I wish you can make a good decision!!

Oh, the funny thing, well it was more for fun that that reward thing came as an addition, so why not? Hahaha, but I somehow wanted to do it but I didn't. I was curious to see what would happen, and also to see, would I dare to do that silliness 😂

How I make decisions.
I pray, and watch. Lol. Literally

You know your formula. I am not worried you will choose the best option regarding your job offer :))

Thank you @jaydr for your opinion and support here, this post and the comments that came made me easier to decide. 😇

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Overthinking is...the biggest enemy of making decisions.
The more you spread the list of pros and cons, the more you get confused. Golden rule (from my own experience), is that first thought, how I am reacting on it (my belly actually, želudac :)), that's where intuition is hidden.
Always trust ur intuition, no matter what.

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želudac decided!

Although I think we have to do some kind of pros and cons list, you are right that intuition is very important. Ok, the most important! We just have to recognize it and interpret it well. I hope I did it well, I need my summer to see the Danube 😇

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Ofc you did it well, it was ur choice,something better will come up, that's why is necessary to turn something down sometimes!

Dunav te čeka. :)

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Wise words.
We have to let down some offers if we want space for some better ones 🙂
I do hope we can go this summer too 🌞

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Though decisions… I think you should do what you “gut” is telling you.
Either way it will be fine.

Yes it does look like the Buddha is resting 😉

Have a wonderful day @mipiano 👋🏻

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From a difficult decision, it came out that it was easier to reject it than I imagined. So indeed the gut told me it would not be healthy for my mind, so those people will have to live without my music 😁 🎶

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That’s good… when it turned out easier than imagined to turn down.
Must be a relief in some way.

Good night @mipiano 👋🏻😴

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Hello @littlebee4

Look who is back hahahaha

4 days of delay, oh what's that ? ;D

It was indeed a relief to make that decision. And it was accepted very well by the manager. He understood completely.
New things will come if they have to come.

Good evening :))

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Hello @mipiano 👋🏻

Missed you… 😉 but take all the time you need. Health is more important!

Good to hear.
Yes it comes as it should be…

Good morning 😊☀️

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Good afternoon @littlebee4

Four days, this time not heath but all other circumstances came in haha

Hope you enjoyed your day today too :) 👋

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Good evening @mipiano 😊

I so understand.

Our day was great… we had today our family gathering and all 4 families together… 😁🥳🎉💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
Moved today to our second stay. Russell’s Dad, first was his brother.

Hope your day is good. Have a great start of the new week 😁

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Good evening little girl

4 families, but that is lovely!

My day was good, yes, but definitely not that many exciting things as at your side 😍

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That’s good to hear @mipiano your day was good.

Thanks 🥰
Tomorrow we have calm day… we go for a walk, nothing else planned (yet)

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A calm day would come in handy to you

But you never know, maybe indeed some new plans arrive in the meantime :D

Good night @littlebee4 💤💤👋

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Think I will find out what his Dad has planned today 😉😊

It could well be that they will just turn up 😋🤣😁

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Have a great day, whatever the plans are 👋

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Thanks 😊
So far visited a castle and a walk through an old city. Think we walked 7 km today. Now a rest and this evening out for a meal.

Hope your day is going great too 😊

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the challenge you didn't take 😂 😂 😂
I would do this even without a reward: 1 full Ether you were offered?
ok ok ok I would be a little nervous executing the nose tipping thing... in my country, I could end up in jail for that these days. but still, the fun factor is so high for such challenge!

the gig: nooooooo dont take it.
ok ok ok I have to add something to the above: if you consider this for some extra money, then my advice could be a little different. if you like to play a bit more, just because you like to play more for people, whilst the money doesn't play a role at all, I advise you to seek gigs that is not every week at the same place, but for much shorter periods. all this freedom that is taken away.

decisions: I never make one. It's Mister Decision that makes them for me 😂 😂 😂

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Yea, the challenge was fun. I regret not accepting it just because I am wondering how would the man react. What he would say, could he even come to words or would stay confused? Would he get angry? And yes, because it was one full Ethereum in game 😅

I already refused the gig this midday. I just needed to put this down and read it in this form, published and with comments to realize I would not be happy with it indeed. The (extra) money would come in handy to pay some (extra) bills but I don't see myself going there every Friday. If just a few, then yes. So I already informed him that I am not taking it.
Although, I am happy with the Sunday morning ones as a long term thing. Then in summer, if we will travel again like last year, I will figure out something about how to find just a temporary "replacement" for me. If we will travel.

EDIT: Mister Decision is a good guy then, he is welcome to visit me sometimes :))

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Darn: 1Eth all these questions "what if this and that"... anyways, history cant be changed.
Cool, no more longer-term calendar planning, cool!
I need to start listing all the peeps passing by in our posts, am forgetting some already.

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ok, I can help with the task if you want :))
Families and friends and royal highness peeps too to be included 😂

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will make a list ad circle it to you for additions and corrections 🎶

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Looking forward to seeing it
I have my pen prepared for possible additions, but I do know all the peeps will be on the VIP list already 😀

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Wao.. so you play so intense like this. No one could ever tell such. Buy well I won't dispute the fact that getting paid for music is bad tho just because of those who live on it as a source of income.. thanks for sharing

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Well, I said I am pretty busy :D
Gigs are just one of the things that keep me with the need to have good organization and be focused!

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Well it's true tho.. when will you invite me to come along with you for your gigs??

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Hello,🙋‍♀️ I used to have a hard time making a decision, now I ask my heart, does this decision make me happy, what will be its contribution to me. Most importantly, I do muscle (kinesiology) testing. Our body and soul know everything.

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You are right, indeed the heart can have a major word in making decisions, although not always the smartest moves we make listening just to it :)

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Me llamo mucho la atención la imagen del Buda y créeme dudo que este preocupado jeje.

Te soy sincero puedo hablar desde el punto de vista de un asesor comercial o una persona que está en ventas y no de un artista como tu.

En las negociaciones siempre debe existir el ganar - ganar (ambas partes deben quedar satisfechas) si no es así, déjala ir.

Además hoy día el aceptar una oferta o una negociación, debe estar basada en el tiempo. No podemos pensar en el hoy, los negocios o las ganancias deben enfocarse a largo plazo. Por ello pienso que donde exista un buen relacionamiento y una alianza duradera, allí es tu lugar. 😉 Un abrazooo

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He recibido un comentario de un profesional!! :) Tienes to da la razón, hay que enfocarse a largo plazo. Creo que yo no sería nada feliz con estar comprometida a hacer algo que al final no me gustara. Tocar el piano sí que me gusta, no es eso, sino sé lo que conlleva un compromiso como este.

Gracias por tu visita y tu comentario 😇

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jeje me gusto lo de profesional jaja pero no me lo tomare tan enserio. Es que es algo super real a veces tomamos decisiones por condición que por convicción y pienso que hoy día debe existir un balance respondiendo preguntas como: ¿El pago es bueno ? ¿el horario me favorece? ¿Cuántas veces debo tocar al mes? ¿El traslado afecta mi ganancia? ¿el empleador da buenas condiciones? ejemplo: comida, dinero para el traslado.

Son cosas que uno debe tener en cuenta, pero solo tú debes dar un buen SI o un buen NO. Un abrazo!!

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Exactamente :) solamente yo puedo decidir sí o no :)

También , tus preguntas son similares a lo que yo también me pregunté, pero yo añadí también una importante. El verano es la única oportunidad de visitar a mis padres y si no lo tengo libre, es difícil que yo vaya a ese viaje largo (y cuando digo largo creeme que lo es 😂 ) Me merece la pena ganar un poco de extra si no puedo ir a visitar a mi familia? La respuesta ha salido negativa :)))

Un abrazo igualmente, y gracias por tus palabras amables. Se nota que sois hermanos con Fernando jejeje :)))

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Excelente punto de vista!! jajaja y si he aprendido de el es mi maestro, aun sigo diciendo cuando sea grande quiero ser como el jajaja.

Un abrazo y que lleguen las mejores oportunidades para ti!!

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Hello friend, I think that Buddha is enjoying a nice memory hahahaha... because sleeping in that position is difficult. I am also a musician and when they pay me what I ask for, I go anywhere, it is part of the job friend, although I am not a recognized or famous musician but I also get my small contracts to animate weddings or any type of event, we must always You are in the mood and willing unless you have another contract. Blessings

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I think too that sleeping would not be the most comfortable thing in that position, but we never know, Buddha is Buddha :)) 😂

I know, it is our job, but we can choose (if we can) what to accept and what not.
In this case, I rejected it as I would not be happy to have it as a long term thing, I have vacations from my work (school) just during the summer and I like to visit my family then. :))
But anyway, maybe something else will come, closer and days I can choose 😅🎶🎶

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